Seven ways to keep your bloke

Seven ways to keep your bloke. He is so gorgeous you'd love to hook up with him - or you've had a few dates and want more.

Here psychologist Dr PAM SPURR offers seven subtle ways to grab then keep his attention without appearing too desperate or obvious.

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WORD PERFECT:

The choice of words you use around him is crucial to him wanting more time with you.

This is known as verbal attraction, when you make him like you even if he doesn't know why he feels this way.

When you chat with him, use feelgood lines such as: "It's lovely to have bumped into you." Or: "This cocktail tastes heavenly." Or: "This is a wonderful place."

These words will zoom straight into his subconscious and he won't quite know why he always feels good around you - but he will.

SPEAKS VOLUMES:

Sticking with the theme of what you say, your vocal tone is also crucial to attracting him.

Relationship research shows men are attracted to softer, slower and slightly lower tones than the high-pitched, excitable tones in which we gabble to our girlfriends.

Being wise with the way you speak will subtly seduce him. All he'll be conscious of is that he likes the sound of you speaking. But let him get a word in.

FOCUS HIS MIND:

To seduce him into getting together with you, then staying with you, grab his attention. He needs to concentrate on you - and only you.

Which is why choosing a crowded, noisy bar for a first date is a bad idea. With loads of distractions, you'll be unable to focus on each other.

Choose a place which has subtle background music and lighting. Save clubbing for another time.

THE FOOD OF LOVE:

It's rare for a woman to have a good appetite on a date. Instead, she pushes her food around on her plate.

But you give him a sexy subconscious message if you eat with a passion because he'll think you are also hungry in the bedroom - the two are linked.

SOME THINGS SHOULD ALWAYS REMAIN A MYSTERY:

He loves the fact that your skin is soft, you don't have facial hair and you smell wonderful.

So if he rings when your face is slathered in a mud mask, don't tell him.

He really doesn't want to know how you make yourself so delicious - keep tweezing, plucking and shaving but in complete privacy.

A LITTLE DISTANCE GOES A LONG WAY:

You've had a couple of hot dates, you can barely keep your hands off each other and you want to see him 24/7.

But keeping a little distance between each other during the first few months has a positive psychological effect - he will want more of the wonderful you.

Despite wanting to see him every evening, carve out time with your friends and yourself - so heightening his interest.

FIND YOUR TOMBOY SIDE:

Of course men love us because we're women but one resounding criticism is that we never let our girly sides slip.

Have perfect make-up and wear sexy little black dresses on dates but surprise him by sometimes mucking in with guy stuff.

He'll think you're even more gorgeous if you grab a paintbrush and offer to help him paint his sitting room - rather than back off in horror for fear of spoiling your nails.( thesun.co.uk )